Practically speaking, how does one move to a place of Resolution; of living with homosexuality in maturity and holiness?

Point One: If you are living in continuous Conflict AGAINST H (and not substantially living WITH H in Resolution ) then one or more of these ten areas are being negatively effected or are in conflict and unsettled for you. These ten areas may need your attention (and God will also attend to them with you) in order for you to move to greater Resolution. These should be the practical areas of your focus.

Point Two: These ten areas are the fluid and changing areas of our lives. Every Christian must deal with these areas. They are the battleground for all Christians. They may be more or less fixed, but they are always subject to positive or negative changes. They are the "stuff" of life with which we are always adapting, dealing with and coping.

Point Three: When you are functioning well in most or all of these ten areas, you are most Vitalized, alive, functional. You are living as an Adult, Christian, Sexually Mature, Man. When you are not, you are most De-vitalized; experiencing life as empty, stressed, unfulfilling, lonely, unrewarding.

Point Four: I have a little theory that comes from my work with overcomers. It's this: if any THREE of these areas are effected negatively (weakened, vulnerable, threatened, stressed), and you allow exposure to a homoerotic TRIGGER, you will be SET UP for sexual temptation and a fall. One or two are not sufficient to weaken your psycho-social-sexual strength.

Point Five: When you can't pinpoint what causing your problems, look to 2, 5 , and 10 as undermining factors. Let's develop your Profile Stability as an ADULT, Christian, Sexually Mature Man or Woman. For each category, rate yourself: 5=Very Secure or Strong to 1= Very Insecure or Weak.

1. Ideology: The Holy Spirit through Paul says, Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will. (ROMANS 12:1-2) If you are not established in RESOLUTION work it may be because you are in conflict ideologically. Your thinking, your mind, your theological, psychological, biblical thinking, beliefs, convictions, assumptions, perspectives about H and sin are unsettled or conflicted. What do you really believe about H? Is H normal, natural, healthy? Is H sin? Is H a deviancy, a disorder, a disorientation? What do you believe about gays, gay rights, etc. It is best to have a well-thought out ideology of convictions, rationale, beliefs; than a fuzzy one. Rate yourself: What can you do about this?

2. Bio-Chemical/Physical/Medical: The body is a chain of links between emotion, feelings, chemistry and sexuality. Therefore sexuality is positively/negatively effected by such things as play, rest, tiredness, depression, anxiety, anger, hunger, loneliness, physical and medical conditions. HALT (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) is used to describe set-ups for impulsive, compulsive behavior. Some people need medication assistance because their emotional and psychological stresses and management have been dysfunctional. Some need better diets, exercise, health habits and attention to other contributing medical conditions. Do you need to do anything in this area? How do you rate it?

3. Social/Cultural: There is much in the world which supports living as a gay and sexually permissive person. There is little support for X-Gays or overcomers. Are you pressured, contaminated, influenced by your surroundings and environment (people, companions, ideas, news, etc); which undermines your ability to maintain resolution? What can you do about this?

4. Psychological Your self-image, self-esteem, inner child-adult-parent self-talk, mental health, personality issues of de-vitalization (OCP, PA, PD, ED) Your psychological life undermines your ability to maintain resolution. What can you do about this?

5. Emotional- Your emotional economy. The way in which you manage stress, pressure, anxiety, depression. The ebb and flow of your emotional life. Your stress-relief cycle. Your emotional needles.

6. Sexual Temptation: You are experiencing sexual, erotic and lustful inclinations. You feel unable to manage, self-control, discipline your lusts or "flesh" (imagination, mind, thoughts, behavior). Five areas: Masturbation, Visual Indulgence, Sexual Engagement with others, Pornography, and Emotional Dependencies. What can you do about this?

7. Interpersonal: Personal relationships are unrewarding. Or, how does H effect relationships you have? You do not have adequate encouragement, support, intimacy or rewarding relationships which undermines your ability to maintain resolution? Rate this area! What can you do about this?

8. Work: What kind of work do you do for a living? How rewarding and satisfying is that work. Does it bring enthusiasm, interest, challenge to your life? What avocations do you have? Hobbies, pastimes, recreational interests? What vocation, ministry or service do you engage in for God's kingdom?

9. Spiritual: You are experiencing spiritual weakness, numbness, dry, de-vitalized, distant from God, unmotivated, prayerlessness, biblically undisciplined, disinterested in Christian fellowship, worship and church life. This undermines your ability to maintain resolution. What can you do about this?

10. Satan: Let's neither exclude Satan's efforts to destroy and defeat your walk with God; nor over-credit Satan with your struggle. Satan and his evil servants will attempt to oppress you, regress you, depress you or possess you.
Like all vulnerability to specific sin areas, Satan knows that he can oppress you, wear you out, tire you and weaken you with sexual temptation. He can also cause you to regress; that is, cause you to be impulsive, childish, immature, wanting your way now, not acting like an adult. He can play on depression as well and make you discouraged and ready to give in and give up. He likes you empty so that he can rush in; see Matthew 12:43-45. Rarely, but sometimes, he can take possession of a person through compulsive, addictive behavior, thoughts, imaginations, and fantasy. Do you need to make a general prayer of renouncing Satan and all his works, pleading the blood and the cross of Christ?

Are you AT RISK in three areas?
OVERALL RATING:
40-50=very strong;
30-39=strong;
20-29=at risk;
11-19=vulnerable;
5-18=very vulnerable

1. Today I would like you to review

God has Called Me Personally to Sexual Self-Control and a Working Resolution of Homosexuality.

Make a review of the important parts of this statement and tell me if how you feel and think about this statement at this stage of your work.
2. How did you do on the above Practically Speaking material?
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